I am a jokester. I love to have fun and I am extremely extroverted.
However, I am very sensitive to criticism.
The latter takes away from the former if you don’t say to yourself every once in awhile ,”It’s not that serious.”
I am often guilty of getting offended by that phrase. My husband gets beat up about it the most:
“What do you mean you’re not hungry? Wait…so what you’re saying is my food is wack?? I’m a wack food maker??? I can’t toast bread???? WHERE HAVE YOU EATEN TODAY????? WHY DID YOU MARRY A REMEDIAL FOOD PREPARER?????? “
His response: “It’s not that serious, Shaun.”
My guns are cocked, knives drawn, and ready for war. He said something harmless to calm my ass down. My interpretation was, “Your feelings aren’t a serious matter for me.”
The division is established.
Two days later we decide that was a stupid fight to have about dinner.
The point is…my WHOLE life would be different if I chose to abide by “It’s not that serious” at the right times. People are just people.
“Mistakes are what make people human.”-Tip in the movie Home (Yes my children have brain washed me.)
I am DEEPLY ENGULFED in this great book I got on clearance at Target two days ago.
Year of Yes is absolutely freaking awesome. The message is self explanatory but I am in love with the way Shonda Rhimes writes. The detail and the color is so inviting you feel like you know her personally. I could completely relate to her take on the “working mother.”
I work 11 hour shifts 4 days a week plus overtime. My 2 year old is in an early childhood private program. My step daughter is in her first year of kindergarten. The class parties, fundraisers, meetings, and at home learning we do to supplement is a lot. Factor in cleaning, laundry, and an occasional meal and there are days when I get 3-4 hours of consecutive sleep. But! You know what…
It’s not that serious.
Also, I’m lucky. My husband helps. Not like, helps a little bit. No he helps A LOT.
I conducted a business call with a dancer performing in my upcoming poetry showcase tonight. I was on a lunch break and she had her infant climbing into the phone. We both shared that we sometimes video chat our husbands. The kids video chat. We text at stop signs. Simple things have to be scheduled. Everything has to be rescheduled. But!
It’s not that serious. We get it done.
I would like to complain less and comply more.
Good t-shirt idea.
Note to self.
Complain less and comply more.
Until next time…
***By the way…I’m doing a follow-up post to the vision board post I did last year. So look for that! Share. Comment. Like.
“There’s nothing wrong with being driven. And there’s nothing wrong with putting yourself first to reach your goals. The other stuff still happens.” ~Shonda Rhimes