It’s Not That Serious

I am a jokester. I love to have fun and I am extremely extroverted.

However, I am very sensitive to criticism. 

The latter takes away from the former if you don’t say to yourself every once in awhile ,”It’s not that serious.”

I am often guilty of getting offended by that phrase. My husband gets beat up about it the most:

What do you mean you’re not hungry? Wait…so what you’re saying is my food is wack?? I’m a wack food maker??? I can’t toast bread???? WHERE HAVE YOU EATEN TODAY????? WHY DID YOU MARRY A REMEDIAL FOOD PREPARER?????? “

His response: “It’s not that serious, Shaun.”

“WHAT?!!”

My guns are cocked, knives drawn, and ready for war. He said something harmless to calm my ass down. My interpretation was, “Your feelings aren’t a serious matter for me.”

The division is established.

Two days later we decide that was a stupid fight to have about dinner.

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The chicken vegetable stir fry I made the other day. They picked the vegetables out -_-

The point is…my WHOLE life would be different if I chose to abide by “It’s not that serious” at the right times. People are just people.
“Mistakes are what make people human.”-Tip in the movie Home (Yes my children have brain washed me.)

I am DEEPLY ENGULFED in this great book I got on clearance at Target two days ago.

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You’re loving my fresh wash, set, and wrap lol

Year of Yes is absolutely freaking awesome. The message is self explanatory but I am in love with the way Shonda Rhimes writes. The detail and the color is so inviting you feel like you know her personally. I could completely relate to her take on the “working mother.”

I work 11 hour shifts 4 days a week plus overtime. My 2 year old is in an early childhood private program. My step daughter is in her first year of kindergarten. The class parties, fundraisers, meetings, and at home learning we do to supplement is a lot. Factor in cleaning,  laundry, and an occasional meal and there are days when I get 3-4 hours of consecutive sleep. But! You know what…

It’s not that serious.

Also, I’m lucky. My husband helps. Not like, helps a little bit. No he helps A LOT.

I conducted a business call with a dancer performing in my upcoming poetry showcase tonight. I was on a lunch break and she had her infant climbing into the phone. We both shared that we sometimes video chat our husbands. The kids video chat. We text at stop signs. Simple things have to be scheduled. Everything has to be rescheduled. But!
It’s not that serious. We get it done.

I would like to complain less and comply more.

Good t-shirt idea.

Note to self.

Complain less and comply more.

Until next time…

-Shaun Liriano

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***By the way…I’m doing a follow-up post to the vision board post I did last year. So look for that! Share. Comment. Like.
http://shutyamouthandcallmeugly.com/2015/01/30/vision-boards-and-what-i-think-of-them/

“There’s nothing wrong with being driven. And there’s nothing wrong with putting yourself first to reach your goals. The other stuff still happens.” ~Shonda Rhimes

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Give Your Wallet a Break Today!

Day 11 of the self esteem challenge :

Use today as a savings opportunity for the future you.

I work in a corporate office so I spend a lot on food daily. A sandwich from the cafeteria after chips and a bottled water can easily amount to $8-9. Add in another $6-7 for coffee and a bagel on the way to work. By the time my second break comes, I’m looking for some “happy food” to put some excitement in my day. That can be anything from apple slices with caramel  ($3.49) to a slice of pizza (don’t judge my diet.)

Today I’m gonna keep it really simple!

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I’m having cereal for my first break and my lunch.

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I caught an awesome sale. If you’ve been a follower of shutyamouthandcallmeugly.com for awhile then you know I love loyalty cards!!! I saved $2.80 at CVS today and my year to date savings is $85.91. Think of what you can do with that money. Especially with the holidays coming up! Or maybe it’s just a new hairstyle for you to start the new year off with.

If you’re drinking the recommended 60 ounces of water a day, you should feel content throughout the day. I’m not saying you’re going to feel like you ate a steak! :-p
However, you shouldn’t want to go all zombie on your co-worker and chew an arm off.

The money you would spend, you can keep in your pocket. Make a list of things you can use the money for. Look at that list when you’re tempted to break the challenge during your day.

My list:
1. Eyebrow threading- $4.00 (Sundays only…..I know I know I’m cheap!)
2. Underarm waxing-$8.00
3. Manicure and pedicure -$15.00 (Wednesdays only)
4. Gasoline -$10.00 is a half tank (4 cl vehicle.)
5. Music- Cd $10-$15 (yes I still buy cd’s) Average download  $9.99

I can keep going but you get the idea!!

Let me know how you do with this challenge today. I don’t start my work day till 3pm today but I posted earlier than normal for you guys. If you’ve already started, sacrifice McDonald’s on the way home or that Cinnabon you don’t need. Cook dinner for everyone else, you eat cereal and pack your portion for lunch tomorrow! Join me or shut your mouth and call me ugly in the comments section below. This may seem small but the point is it’s for you!!!!

P.S- If you live in the New York area and you want to know where I get some of those deals, ask in the comments section or tweet me @ShutyaMouthNow!  I reply immediately

-SMN

Simply Delicious (Interview with Gene Starks/ Chef Bully)

Everyone who knows me, knows I love food and sleep.  That is probably a terrible combination. Nonetheless, food has a way of making people feel good!

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I came across a young man, father of four, who makes the most delectable seafood I’ve ever tasted. Formerly, Gene Starks was a supervisor at a food distribution company and he decided he wanted to take his passion to the next level. He enrolled in Star Career Academy and graduated in 2012. Determined to grow his business and set a strong example for his children he took on every gig he could get and became affectionately known as Chef Bully.

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Making his mark on the world one plate at a time, Gene provides professionalism and quality! It also helps that beyond that tough exterior he has a warm personality which will make him infectious with your guests for any event.

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I seized the opportunity to grab a super quick interview with Gene. He gladly answered a few questions for me. Take a peek!

1. What is your favorite part of your career?
I love watching others genuinely enjoy my food. Knowing that I can make people happy by merely feeding them, is my reward.

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2. What makes your services unique?
(He laughs heartily ) I would say it is my passion and my personality. Food is food right?! Wrong! Being a chef is an art form. Every artist thinks they’re unique! Nobody wants to be boxed in. So I won’t talk about it. Come taste what makes me unique. I’m not just your average chef.

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3. What advice would you give to anyone of any age or background who wants to work in your field? 
Work hard, re-invent yourself, set yourself apart from others, try new things and always be prepared for the unexpected!

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4. Dorothy Day once said: “Food for the body is not enough. There must be food for the soul.” What would you say is a healthy habit you have that puts you in a positive state when negativity creeps in?
I don’t mean to sound corny but cooking IS my outlet it’s what I love to do. Good days and bad days all end with me in the kitchen being creative and connecting with people.

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You can follow Gene on Instagram @gene4boys.  You can also visit him in person at:
Black Pearl Lounge
1299 Grand Avenue
Baldwin NY 11510
*Ask for Chef Bully

It wasn’t all bullsh*t!

When I was a child my Nana Bea would call me princess. princess My chariot was her white mini van and my ball was a shopping spree at Syms Clothing, lunch at Old Country Buffet, and a Tweety chain I picked out at a discount jewelry store. In my neighborhood there were no gowns, just Reebok, Kani, Tommy Hilfiger, Nautica, Mecca, and Calvin Klein. If you had a Bear bubble jacket in the winter, you were “cool.” That’s what hood princesses wore . My maternal side would spoil me with name brands from QVC that I was too young to appreciate and I had a standing hair appointment every two weeks. I didn’t know what a luxury that was. There was a manicure specialist named Jackie who did my tiny 6-year- old nails while my hair would dry. My friends wanted to eat at my house.  They’d call home and ask for permission. I didn’t know what a  luxury that was. To have enough food to feed
your family and feed unexpected guests.

You’re never told your Prince isn’t going to fight dragons or “save” you from anything. Relationships require effort and gumption from both parties!
You’re going to win each other. You’re both royal in your own right. You have to be honest with yourself and be willing to admit your flaws so they don’t devour you. You’re as vulnerable to your demons as a ditz is to a poison apple.  My favorite Disney princess was Ariel. Long red hair. A body Jennifer Hudson would kill for so she can keep making money off her weight lossariel commercials. A mermaid with a talking Jamaican crab as an advisor. I didn’t understand how she could be late all the time when she swam so fast. Id always be on time. No car, no traffic, no stopping for gasoline? Perfect! I could relate to Ariel. She was a dreamer who just wanted something different from her norm. She’s never been on land. I’ve never seen blue or clear water. The only waters I know are long island beaches and chlorinated pools. She dreamt of love. I’ve always been fascinated with love.  The only emotion left inexplicable and undefined. I sought it out and have found it and claim it with raw passion and loyalty. She traded in her fins, her friends, and her father for it! She won a mans heart without speaking (I realize now that being mute worked tremendously in her favor.) Ariel bridged the gap for me. The gap between the fairy tales I watched over and over on VHS and real life in Jamaica Queens. Those stories and movies aren’t all bullsh*t.

The bottom line was sacrifice, not allowing fear to hold you at ransom, not allowing your enemies to underestimate you, respecting your parents but choosing to be emancipated from the mistakes they made that they are convinced you’ll repeat. Being a princess wasn’t about a diamond studded crown or my Yankee fitted. It’s about GUTS and the clarity of self to recognize your royal position no matter what your socio-economic status is. You’re royal even of your man has to let down his cornrows and YOU have to climb a tower to get to his heart. The throne is within. So dust off your old
FUBU sweat suit and tell the non believers ShutYaMouthAndCallMeUgly.fubu

-Shaun Nickens