I like surprises.
I do not discriminate. I love stereo-typically pleasant surprises like flowers,books, bags, watches, dates, drawings from my children and yummy food (just to name a few). I also appreciate “unpleasant” surprises because I believe they reveal a truth that is often necessary for your destiny. Shaun, what does that mean? It means, self-righteousness or if I may dare say salvation or if I go a step further …PURPOSE is rarely ethereal. To over simplify my point, lies/secrets revealed may cause pain but they spark a change that would have been unable to grow in darkness. We need light. We all need light.
Constructive criticism is usually a surprise and seldom received as constructive. Usually it invokes anger, resentment and maybe even shame. However, I believe that even when it is surprising to hear something unexpected about your characteristics or behavior it can still be an experience in development. Instead of making a face and shutting down we can use it as an opportunity to modify.
This is a new philosophy for me. I do not traditionally take criticism well. I do not always deal with crisis effortlessly. I am learning to expand in those areas and exhibit the strength I have. However, I recently reflected on what was a very challenging time in my life and I realized I would never have made the leap to be more consistent in my spiritual journey if it had not been for the opposition. As humans we get comfortable. It takes the element of surprise to shake the ground from under us and force us to rebuild.
If you didn’t get denied for that loan you applied for, would you be attempting to repair your credit now?
If that toxic relationship worked out, would you know that you were slowly committing yourself to an environment where it is dangerous to dream ? Would you know that you are poisoning your passions?
You studied for the test. You almost passed. You were confident you could pass. You were surprised when you failed. Now you are determined to get 100%. You are less nervous, less anxious, and you are going to succeed because each time you failed you completed another step to pruning your proficiency.
One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do. -Henry Ford
Now it is in no way my intention to motivate the malicious mind. If you know you are attempting to create chaos and disruption then this message is not for you. Yet, if you are diligently doing everything you can to invoke any innate goodness within then…
Be bold. Love hard. Take advantage of every opportunity to learn. Don’t be afraid. Embrace all surprises or Shut Ya Mouth and Call Me Ugly.
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