1. I took my 1 year old to a mommy and me “Babies Music and Play” class yesterday morning. I don’t have her in a traditional daycare so I proactively look for opportunities for her to socialize with other children. The kids all went into the meeting room and immediately began playing with one another. When it was time to sing songs, my kid was singing at the top of her lungs. She showed the other children how to play with the toys. She stood in front of the play kitchen and had a full length conversation on the “phone.” She was showing off her vocabulary “Papi”,”mommy”, “hi”, “I’m okay”, “What you doing?” I was so proud! The other mother’s started asking me questions about her age and activities. I felt instantly privileged to be her mom.
2. Sometimes I’m exhausted. No, like borderline dead/comatose exhausted. Like putting your phone in the freezer and your eggs in the bathtub exhausted! Like putting your window all the way down and your music all the way up so you can drive home safe exhausted. Yet, I will jump up at any time day or night if I am responsible for doing something for my children. There is something wonderful about being needed and wanted at the same time. There is something awesome about tiny fingers holding your head and looking into your eyes lovingly and curiously.
3. Children are raw, open, honest and unapologetic. They have so many questions. I love the responsibility of being one of the first people they go to for their answers. Your four year old wants to know:
“Why do you go to work? ”
“Why do you have to make money? ”
“Why do you have to pay bills?”
“Why do we need heat?”
“Why is it cold?”
You better come up with some great answers for them and for yourself! Children help you reassess, edit, and improve your life. My sister is 15 years old. She plays music at the highest decibel and dances with the girls until they are all out of breath and she is their she-ro! Kids are simple. They just want attention and uninhibited honest fun and unconditional love. They want you to be yourself which is the opposite of the facade we normally have to display. Parenting gives you at least one safe place to be yourself.
By: Shaun Nickens
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