Dexter walked in the hospital with no urgency. With his cane in hand, he took his time going in. He had been warned, his friend suffered a stroke and may have dementia. He adjusted the cap on his head and entered the room. He hoped his friend would remember him. He hoped his friend would be okay.
Bill looked up at the door as Dexter entered. His eyes were fixed at the top of Dexter’s head.
That ruby red Kangol hat.
“Hey”, Bill said. “Isn’t that the hat I gave you a few years ago? Yup! Sharp as a tack! I think it was Christmas 2011?”
Dexter’s eyes lit up with surprise.
“Hot dog! Aw man you’re alright! You ain’t dying!” Dexter’s voice oozed with both humor and relief.
“Nah, I’m hanging in there so my kids can’t spend all my hard earned money. Greedy tricksters are probably picking out my headstone already! ” Dexter and Bill roared with laughter. They talked about the moments when they thought time would stand still for them. Hard working hustlers. They talked about the plans they had when they were young men. Dexter did a lot of listening that day. The Master forced him to be still and be attentive and be grateful.
_______________________________________ When I started this blog in 2012 I said it would never be an advice type of forum. I am not a life coach! Who qualifies you for that type of position? Too much pressure! What would you do if you found out your therapist is a Looney Tune? Like a bonafied nut! Would that discredit him? To be a life coach would my life have to be perfect?
There’s a very popular woman. I will leave her nameless. She has books about women being their best and being extraordinary. She has a YouTube stream. She runs bootcamps from her brownstone. She gives women advice about attracting and keeping a man too. I remember reading the online backlash from women who “discovered” she doesn’t have a man and she isn’t married. Whoa! They went nuts! The ring she wears is because she is committed to herself! I cracked up laughing. So what?! All of a sudden she doesn’t know what she’s talking about???! Did she help you? Who certifies good advice?
Doesn’t perseverance through imperfections and the ability to analyze such experiences give you some credibility?
When you call a friend and tell them about your relationship or your career (or lack thereof), do you ask for their counseling license? No. You just appreciate them listening. In most cases they are just reaffirming your views. You need someone to listen because you are tired of talking to yourself. The act of listening is an act of love. Supporting a friend probably makes most people feel good. Do you hesitate because you are afraid of the reaction you will get? Or do you just give your time and your talents?
Sometimes it is hard to balance everything. You are still adjusting to your new or appointed roles in life. You are trying your best to wear your many hats. Then it happens. Someone you love is hospitalized, a baby is born, a friend calls in crisis and you are forced to slow down. You are forced to use your emotional eye.
Sit down and listen before life, time and God force you to. Don’t take communication for granted. Don’t take anything for granted. Dear Kettle, take it from the pot, YOU CAN manage your time better. YOU CAN show your loved ones they matter. YOU CAN be a finisher or you can ShutYaMouthAndCallMeUgly.
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