We all have moments when someone infuriates us. These are character building moments. There are people in this world who are optimistic and positive. These people see the best in others. As we all know everything in existence has an opposite or a pole. So of course there will always be someone who thinks you are a loser, a delinquent, a rebel, or a “mess.” Most of the time, they feel that way because they don’t understand you. You base your actions on standards, morals or beliefs that they cannot relate to. My response to that is very simple. The Creator made us all different for a good reason. We have different genres of music that we are attracted to. Libraries and book stores have endless amounts of subject matter. Even God doesn’t try to affect your free will. It’s a gift. We all have to use our discernment to be able to direct our lives in the way we want it to go. It takes a strong personality, a twinge of patience and humility, and lastly it takes fortitude. Some of the closest people to me have hurt me the most. Those are the people you wish knew you the best. Those are the people who can get under your skin because you hold them in the highest esteem. However, those people will never be able to live your life for you. As much as you may love them, only your actions are relevant to your destiny. Love doesn’t reside in your mind. Love resides in your heart. There are practical people who can only live in terms of what they can see. Then there are enlightened faith carrying people who believe beyond logistics.
Never compare your situation to someone elses. Stop going through your old classmates Facebook pictures and tweets. Social media is like reality tv. People can edit and show you what they want to show you. They will never share the bad times. That couple that has been married for 20 years with the matching outfits and the Escalade has gone through some tumultuous circumstances. It’s always in poor taste to post troubled times. You will give yourself a personality disorder comparing yourself to others. Its destructive. Live your own life. I’m pretty sure Cinderella wasn’t jealous of Snow White or Sleeping Beauty. No matter how much hair you purchase from the beauty supply store, you are not Rapunzel. No man will ever climb up your locs and rescue you from a tower. Whatever turmoil has you captive in your life, you have to free yourself from before you will find any of the happiness you seek.
I remember childhood sayings like “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” and “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” Those were cute but they were crap. They don’t transfer in your adult life. People don’t think before they speak and you may get hurt from time to time. Just make a pact with yourself to do your best always. Your best is enough. Prepare for excellence and tell the haters, “Shut ya Mouth And Call Me Ugly.” 😉
By: Shaun M Nickens